Warning Signs of A Break Up
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Break Up Signs
You don't need a fortune teller to tell you when your relationship is getting stale.
If you're reading this, it probably means that you may have started to see the signs and your intuition tells you that something is wrong.
There are lots of warning signs of a break up and if you can pick them up, you won't have to say that you didn't see it coming.
Here are some warning signs to look for:
Warning Sign of A Breakup #1
Not Calling
Before, your partner used to call just to say they loved you. Now the calls are becoming less frequent and when you're expecting the call it doesn't come at all.
Not calling is a sign that your partner has lost interest in communicating with you and you're on your way out.
Warning Sign of A Breakup #2
They Critercize You...
It seems now that you're never able to do anything right and you cannot please your partner.
How come they're being so brutally honest all of a sudden? Your feelings may not matter much anymore.
Warning Sign of A Break Up #3
Conversations Become Less Personal
The conversations become less about me and you unless they're complaining but more about general stuff.
You want to talk about the future, about being together, owning that house but they find ways to avoid talking about it or keep their responses very sparse.
Warning Sign of A Break Up #4
Constantly Fighting
You're constantly fighting and arguing especially about little things.
Your partner may well be doing this intentionally so they can have an excuse to get away. Constantly fighting may lead to, "I cant do this anymore" and "I think we should see other people" and the classic, "I need some space."
Warning Sign of A Break Up #5
You Spend Less Time Together
You and your partner are spending less and less time together where you used to spend time with each other.
They suddenly cant make it for lunch or they're doing something Saturday or have to work late. Whatever the reason, you don't get to see them as often as before.
This may also be for some of the other warning signs outlined. You spend less time because you're constantly fighting and so on.
Warning Sign of A Break Up #6
They Seem To Always Be Busy
Spending time with you isn't a priority probably because they don't enjoy the time with you anymore or possibly because someone else is occupying their time.
You get a lot of excuses, apologies and maybe even promises that they will make it up to you.
Warning Sign of A Break Up #7
Major Changes in Appearance
A 180° change in style can mean that they're spicing up themselves to someone else's liking.
She dyed her hair and cut them short - thats not even her style. Well, out with the old an in with the new. Why not get a new boyfriend too?
He got a new tattoo and he knows how much you hate those. Who cares what you think anymore.
Dealing With A Breakup Before It Happens.
Just because you may see one of these signs doesn't always mean that you're looking at the front door but if you see a couple warning signs then you should definitely brace your self for what may be coming.
Talk to your partner about it if you can and give them space before they make that request themselves. Don't try to start another fight trying to talk to them. If they're hiding something they will most likely be on the defensive.
Hopefully, you can both work it out together and decide whats best for both of you and how you can make things right.
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I believe the earliest warning sign is that of focusing more on yourself than your partner. Selfishness is a monster!
Dave
Wow, these are dead on. Great article.
But why my boyfriend want to do break ?He says its good for me,but don't I know what can be good or bad for me?I love him so much,I really want to see him happy and is it the reason that he does not want to see me now?
He say , its bothering me that you have slept with someone before me,he say he cares about my past and he want us to be together and he will be always there with me as a friend....
A Friend...what if I have already called each other Hubby and Wify?What if I gave him everyday wake up call?What even if I was awake all the night(With 6 hrs time difference) and guided him for recipies,what if I cared for his leg which was broken 3ce,what even if I did not care he will not be able to Run with me,not be able to play outdoor games with me....What?????
Still I want him to be happy and I will always do the things which he wants........I love you dear..dear friend!
Preeti G, you need to start by loving yourself more. The problem is that you seem to love your boyfriend more than you actually love yourself and so you've given up control of the relationship.
When this happens he is in total control and can do and say whatever he feels link regardless of what you think. Think about it?
What you say is bothering him and that he cares about your past seems a little out of the way and I don't think that could be the real reason for him wanting to break up. I think there is something else to it that he isn't letting you know.
The best thing for you to do is actually withdraw from the relationship if for a while to let him think about what he is doing. This will actually benefit you also although it might be hard but you must try if you want to get your boyfriend back.
You say you want him to be happy but do you want that at the expense of your happiness? Please don't say yes because that is the root of the problem - you should actually be doing things in a relationship that makes YOU happy. Feelings are contagious. If you do things that make you happy then he will be happy also. Don't give up the power in your relationship.
Dear Kelly,
Firstly,Thank you so much replying.It's really great to know people think about me even if they don't know me,and those who loved me once are now gone when I needed them the most.
Kelly, me and my boyfriend met because of common friends.When I was going thru hard time and according to him he wanted me to be get over with this and care for me so he told this situation to the girl who is one of my best friends and one of his family friends.Instead of finding a real solution she did speak loudly , very authoritively and used bad words too.She was more reluctant and irritated because I had been lying to her about the relationship and she says-you lied us,and now you don't talk about anything .Even if you love him he does not so let things happen the way he want.She stopped talking to me,and she does not count me as a friend too.It hurts!Anyways.
Because of my boyfriend I always lied to her, I every wanted to tell her all abour our relationship, but my boyfriend said we need to hide it 'I don't want my mom and dad to know this from other people.We need to wait',he said.
Two months back,I booked flight to visit him although I was lacking money.Now the flight money can't be returned and I'll still be visiting States as my brother lives there.According to the plan my BF will be there too,instead of 13 days we'lll have 3 days chance to meet ,again he'll be coming to see me at the airport when I'll leave the country.I have no idea wheather I shall meet him or not or what I should really do?
Since Sunday,I am not talking to him.I have switched off my cell,and trying to get some peace and giving time to myself.But I aM NOT FEELING HAPPY WITHOUT HIM.
Kelly will you please provide me your email ID or skype ID,I would really love to speak with you,if you like.I found you really good.
Thnx,Preeti.
Very pointed observations telling the potetial break-ups !
Was searching for "how to get your ex boyfriend back", saw your hub on relationships. Great info... practical, down to earth advice!
I think you also have to ask do you really want your ex boyfriend back or are you just feeling lonely and insecure?
Hey Great Hub ! Sure I've seen ALL these warning signs but I bet I've given them too ! Thanks Again !
My bf... he's just acting really weird... We use to talk everyday.. but we just talk every 3 , 2 or 4 days after... I just dont know what to do...
when i read this all of the signs applied to me! im confused caused sometimes i ask my bf if he loves me as much as before and he says yes baby but it doesnt sound very convincing he used to tell me i love you all the time now he says it about 3 times a week idk what to do he acts nice and hugs me only when i tell him can i have a hug or something please help me we've been dating for a year and 2 months please give me ur advice
Dealing with a break up is often the hardest part in relationships. But its something we all have to go through one time or another. We just have to keep in mind that the pains we often go through will make us stronger.
Great advice you have here...
Wish i knew what to do both me and my girlfriend travel alot. Seeing that i am in the navy and she travels frequently we dont see each other much. It was a long distance relationship to begin with but was working out fine at first. Everything was going good until she did one trip and suddenly things started changing i got back from an underway and she didnt seem herself she was very reserved didnt talk much when i called and hardly returned text messages. I was starting to feel like i was getting lead on or the cold sholder. It seemed like she would do enough just to keep me going everytime i thought that we were completely done i would then hear from her so the ball was in her court several times and she always returned it although it took longer at times then it did others. Every time i thought that she was done with me i was surprised by a response or something. Then one night we got to talking she clamed that she was having panic attacks which i have witnessed first hand when visiting. She wants to be a hermet crab for a few months claims she likes me, misses me maybe not as much as i miss her but she does infact miss me just wants space to figure things out. It has been the longest point yet since we have seen one another due to our busy life styles. How exactly do i responde to this she thinks i may be the cause of the attacks and she refuses to say that she wants to break up been kinda hinting at it several times but she keeps saying that she likes me and just wants some time to figure stuff out for a month or so. She still says she misses me too like ive stated above and when we ended our last talk i told her that i loved her and she said that she loved me too. I would really like some advise if any on my situation i am getting ready to deploy so this is making it all the more stress full. really would like for us to continue dating but i dont know what to do at this point.
Matt, in a situation like this, be the first to bring up the topic of breaking up. Let here know that you're ok with giving the relationship a break. I know it sounds like you risk losing her right now but at least you'll have talked to her about it and you can both cut the tension between you both. Talk to her about the situation. If she doesn't want to talk about it don't pressure her. Its takes very committed people to make LDRs work.
I'm dating this girl, and yesterday I called her and Asked if she was going to be able to do something that night, because she had been grounded and unable to spend any time with me for 4 weeks as of yesterday. She said "I can't I'm with my friend, we've been planning to get together since before I was grounded." So I said "What about tomorrow?" She said "I don't know." "Youl still like me right?" "I don't know, I need some time to think." So I told her to call me back when she decides. I know I am young for love, but I've never felt like this for a woman before, and I love her with all my heart. I can't see that I've done anything wrong either, I've made plans for almost all of our dates, wrote her a love poem for valentines day, cooked her dinner and gave her chocolates, waited for four agonizing weeks, waiting to see her only to have her spring this on me. I don't want it to end, so can anybody tell me, is she going to end it, or is she just being emotional, could it just be that time of month for her?
Thank you
She got grounded? How old is this girl/woman?
wow.. this sure helped out alot
and the scary part is ..
all of the signs are happening to me
:(
thanks alot though
wow.. this sure helped out alot
and the scary part is ..
all of the signs are there
im 16 and in love. I knew this guy since grade 9 and he recently this year came out and told me he liked me for the longest time. i was so shoxcked cuz i used to have the biggest crush on him. after a month of talken once he told me he liked me befor we were going out. We would talk for hours and hours and he would always say how wonderful i am even though we werent going out(yet).
once we started dateing he was the sweetest guy ever! but as the days go by his sweetness was fading away that colour was faden. i hate it!
its been three months now and he hardly says i love you anymore or shows me that he does love me. when i do something he doesnt like he gets so angry at me and pretends to break up with me. witch he did twice. he says he does it to get me mad but it doesnt get me mad it leaves me heart broken.
also i told him he has all the signs and he was silent..
what do i do!!
thanks
uh.... 12.... im 13... but i feel like im in love with her, can you just answer the question please?
never mind, it's too late, it's over.... She told be she was breaking up with me and didn't want me anymore on wednesday. maybe she'll come back with time. Could it be that she's just ahving trouble with her emotions because she's going through puberty??
Kelly, to be honest, I am in the midst of confusion and worries. Then I got this website and found few symptoms of possible breakup.
I met this man online and we talk for 2 months now. For over a month of daily conversation, we became close to each other until be both decided to have a relationship. He was very attentive and can't say that he is making fun of me. He seemed serious with his intentions to me. We communicate well, enjoy talking with each other day by day thru IM. By the way, he is from the US and I am from Asia.. We talked about meeting sometime in June. then just this week, I noticed a sudden change. He said he is just too busy and so many things are keeping him occupied. although he dropped me messages sometimes, but I sense something is wrong.
Eventhough how much I assured myself that there is nothing wrong but my gut feeling is telling me so. Sad thing is I learned loving him and I feel him as part of my life now.
One time he sent me message telling me not to be upset for not talking to me,, said it's good thing since he knows he is missing me a lot.
Can you advise me what to do to keep this relationship going? If only I can afford to buy books so I can find ways, I would, but I really can't afford. And your reply will really be a big help and I will really appreciate it. Thank you.
Kelly, thank you so much for posting an article so down to Earth. My problem is, I'm a really negative person, so with some of the warnings you've written I don't know wether they're true or part of my imagination. I am so in love with this man, I thought I could never feel this way about anyone! But when I read about women in my same position and feeling their couple is not interested in them as he used to be, I ask myself if it's true that love blinds us all. Sometimes I feel I'm blind.. I love him soo much but he treats me bad, and most of the ppl that surround me tell me to break up with him. Of course, they don't know how special and unique he is (I know I'm sounding like a blinded in love person), but I'm absolutely positive he is unique and that there's no man on this Earth that's made for me as he is.
What is it he does? Well, he never calls.. he says it's not "his way" of doing things. He doesn't need to communicate. He also says he needs A LOT of space, he doesn't answer my few phone calls either. Our communication narrows down to 3 sms per day. We see each other 2 times a week. We've been dating for 9 months now (he's 21 and I'm 22). Every time I tell him this, he thinks I'm being hysterical or that I dramatize everything. He's constantly telling me he's the most intelligent man on the Earth (and believes that too), hence telling me I'm not as intelligent,,,and all I've got is beauty. He says the sex is great, but when we have a fight...and I start crying he watches me, while he chats on msn and says "your tears don't move anything on me. I think you're just being childish".
He really doesn't care a lot what I do, or where I am.. he's not jealous at all. Why? Well.. because he says that if we break up then I was not meant to be with him.. What does that mean!??
Basically, he's not eager to see me although a week has past since the last time I saw him. He doesn't call much, but then again, never did. He says I'm beautiful and that that's my best quality along with being sweet and creative. He knows I'm not stupid but calls names on me in front of his siblings as a joke, disrespecting me. I've told him to change loads of things, and all he says is he tries to do things, but I should try harder.
Please help me!
To Mr. B. The thing is both you and she are very young. 12 and 13 years old does not make you a man nor her a woman....yet. And very likely, at her age and all the things you are trying to do, which while would be considered very romantic in adults is probably making her feel very pressured as a young girl. By the way, it would be wise to never suggest a females emotional decisions are based on her monthly, it makes women angry to suggest they cannot make rational decisions during their monthly. I would assume she is not ready for commitments at her age. Perhaps you should give her space and look to enjoy some group activities with others of your age group rather than limiting yourself to one girl. I believe you will find yourself in this predicament time and again if you overwhelm girls of this age with commitment in mind. At your ages love comes and goes many times but as you grow and mature you begin to learn that it is actually infatuation and not true love. Give yourself time to grow. Give yourself time to learn. And love will come down the line. Don't be hard on yourself. It's not that you've actually done something wrong. It's just that it is extremely rare that a couple meeting at the age of 12-13 years old will actually last for long. There will be many other girls in your life and as you grow older you will actually begin to meet women. You will learn the difference. I remember the days of youthful love and they are a struggle but you'll get through them. You'll learn from them. I suggest next girl you like try to be your age, not do things grown men do and don't expect her to behave like a grown woman when she isn't there yet. Try to enjoy this age. It doesn't last long. I hope I have been helpful to you.
i love my boyfriend so much and yes he does call less and it has been three days since he moved to his new house and has not called to give me the phone number. do you think he wants to break up?
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Hello whoever is reading! I NEED ADVICE ASAP!
Im vry out of my mind confused and fusrated!
its a long story!
so my boyfriend and I have been dateing not that long, about 3 months and our aniversry was on the 9th of this month, and he was fine and he wixshed me our happy 3 months and he told me he loved me and that hes sorry that he couldnt see me that day because he was b usy working on his car because hes going to sell it soon. So after the 9th he became distant to me. I texted him and he would hardly answer. He would only answer to me at night time when he was going to sleep and stuff and he did apologise for it. But something to me seemed a bit odd. So I saw him at work (we both work together) and from the moment he saw me he turned his head around, and fromt hat moment I knew something was wrong. So i asked him why hes being so diffrent all of a sudden and so distant? he told me that he needs space from texting, and that his parents dont really like for him to text that much cuz of school work. but then hes like im just feeling weird, its haed to explain. So, I backed off alittle and the next day I texted him asking me if him and I can talk in person because Im a but confused and shocked that this is happening and he told me yes we should talk soon and that he will let me know when is the best time for us to talk. I told him that I was very wworried! and what CONFUSES me the MOST is that he tells me not to worry and that we just need to talk alittle! and so last night he texted me about what he was doing and stuff that day and he also wished me a godnight, witch he hasnt done in a while, so I was all happy and stuff. But im just very confused. Im sorry for the long details and story! but I guess what Im asking is...do you think hes hiding something from me, and its hard for him to tell me, I mean why would he tell me NOT to worry? that makes me think that maybe he wont break up with me afterall!
PLEASE HELP!
this hub really help someone's failure in love.
...........i dnt want to lose her
okay i have this EX and i still really like him and i want him back but dont no how to get him back...... please help!!
thank u
i was with my boyfriend for 1 and a half year.. we had fights but occasionally.. suddenly now he is on vacation he just stop communicating with me, he forgot our anniversary and my birthday.. and all he can say was "when im on vacation i dnt know why i do this, i canoot say sorry all the time to you.. i do love you but when im here i just forget to call you.. so weird and when he told me this i was so hurt..
I'm 29 years old and been with the same guy for five years. Lately he lies and breaks promises. All he wants to do now is drink and stay up all night. He tells me because he has irish and german in him. I do not believe that. He says things to me he wouldn't say sober and tells me he says those things because he can not do it sobber. When he wakes up he apologises. We have four kids but not with each other. He promises me he won't drink again for so many days but always breaks it. He says he doesn't have a problem, but when he goes and buys more when he is out and lies about it. What should I do?
Don't know if my fiance of 2 1/2 yrs is going to break up with me or not but all the signs really sound like our relationship as of late. It seems like he starts the arguements all the time and I didn't know why until I read the signs and maybe hes doing it purposely to find a way to break up with me. We got into an arguement yesturday and he says that he will call me when he calls me and im still waiting for him to call me. Im going nuts because idk whats going on or what might happen. Im really afraid because ive been through breakups before and it was always the guy that broke up with me.
These problems come when you're with the wrong person. If you're with the wrong person there is nothing you can do. They will ruin your life. They want to party and use drugs and they hate it when they can't. They look for things to argue about. They screw others and don't give a dman about you. You will find yourself arrested. When someone has a drinkign or drug habit if you don't have the will to tell them to leave, then either move away or you must get another partner, because you'll keep going back to this piece of garbage if nothing other than sex.
I was with two women who I didn't want from the start. Between them I wasted 7 years. Seven years on two whores who I was honest from the start I didn't want this and it caused nothing, but trouble. If you're with someone for a couple months and you don't want to marry them you must leave, because you're wasting time.
So many people go after people with money and clout, so if the sex sucks you reap other benefits. Because if sex is the only benefit you have to think sex lasts sometimes 5 minutes and there is still many hours left in the day. Smart people marry for money and dumb people marry for love.
Well my fiance didnt' break up with me.. we have worked things out and actually talked... things are better now in our relationship....
iv noticed they start being distice and they talk to you less
i have been with my boyfriend for about three months.
I met him when he was with his ex girlfriend, he said he was going to break up with her soon and so we just kept flirting but before this he met my bestfriend who he also flirted with, but he has stoped as she also is with somebody.
i know that alot of people think that he is a horrible person who flirts with other girls but i really do love him
but sometimes i just cant help to think about the fact that he could be doing the same thing that he did to his previous ex girlfriend.
he tells me he loves me regularly
however he is on the phone to my bestfriend a bit.
i have recently thought of breaking up with him but cannot bear to as i really do love him but i have my doubts
I have tryed to talk to my boyfriend about "the signs" but he says everything is ok. How do I know if everything realy is ok or if hes just saying this because its easier?
Hi everyone. My Girlfriend and I have a very strong bond. At least i thought so. Everything was going great. We talk all the time. phone, chat. ALL the time. All of a sudden im very "irritating". I complain a lot. I dont listen. I constantly get on her nerves. But nothing has changed as far as how i treat her. I treat her just like how i used to treat her when we were prefect. Now those things irritate her. We argue and fight everytime i try to talk to her about it. anyways, if anyone has advice please help me out.
John, be the first to suggest to your girlfriend that you stop seeing each other for a while. Define a set period for this off time (a week, two weeks etc.) Be honest with her and let her know your reason for doing this.
Then, actually take the break. Don't call her, don't text her, don't see her even if she is the one who tries to initiate contact. During that break try doing fun things without her, go out with friends and if possible set up situations where she will know that you're doing just fine.
She'll have time to think about what's going on and time to miss what you guys used to have.
in the middle of the night, in bed, I told her that I needed to talk to her because I couldn't sleep- I was thinking about the two of us. No serious talks, we just argue. No affection, no hugs or kisses. She only loves on me when she needs it or wants it. Love is only on her time, I am patient. She critizies me and everything that I say. She disrespects me in public and in front of her family and friends. Pushes me away when I need a hug or kiss. I feel like a little child under her. control. Not supportive of my hobbies nor shows much interest. I am not happy I am hurt. She says she can change and that she's working on getting better. Yet it's gotten worse, much worse. I am not happy no no.
I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now, we are both going to be 25 in a couple months. My boyfriend works on his trucks (yes, theres more than one) ALL the time with his friends... When it gets close to summer (when they all go take their trucks out) I feel like I am no longer a priority to him. We had our 1 year anniversary about a month ago, and I had a hair apt. that night, and I asked him if he wanted me to change it to a couple days later so we could spend time together on that specioal night, he said no, dont change it, I will have a nice dinner ready for you when you get home from your appointment. Well, I text him while at my apt. and he said hes working on his truck.. and that was 15 mins. before I was going to leave the salon to go home. I was instantly saddened because I knew already i'd get my hopes up that night. Well, I called him on my way home, and he was huffing and puffing, he said he was at the local gas station, trying to find some stuff to make for us tonight. I get home, and he just pulled in in front of me. He had in his bag... whatever he could throw together @ the gas station. I was so hurt, because I went out of my way to get this huge cookie cake made for him, a singing card... etc. I just really got my hopes up because he had me thinking he was going to put a lot of thought into this, then I get home... and nothing is done, and he made me feel like he obviously didnt care that much. I didnt even get a card. He has been doing so much on his truck and things with his friends lately.... I just dont feel like his priority anymore, and it really sucks. Even on nights that he says he will come over, he is SO late.. because yes, you guessed it... he was working on his truck! There has been lots of broken promises, and it really hurts and bothers me. Whenever I talk to him about "not feeling like his priority" he gets mad, and says... what do you want me to do, I have to get my truck done, I am never with my friends... etc. etc.... He has no other responsibility besides his job (still lives at home, has a great job 70k a year...and his mom does everything for him still)... I have been out of the house since I was 19, got a degree etc. and I still have time for him... He really is a great guy, would do anything for me, tells me he loves me all the time, gives me back rubs... blah blah blah, but the priority thing really bothers me- and i have been extremely irritated with that lately. WHAT SHOULD I DO!?!?! I NEED ADVICE PLEASE!!!!
***ALSO, we went and looked at engagement rings about 1 1/2 months ago, and it just makes me wonder, if I should even be considering marrying this guy, after I'm having all of these thoughts!?!?****
Do not get married if you aren't happy. Marriage is not going to solve your problems.
All the advices are down to the earth..really good..
Its been almost 3 years,im in relationship with him. I love him so much and he is my first love.But past few months im noticing that myself having all the symptoms of breaking up (5/7)..its getting worse day by day.. Im not happy anymore..I guess he even didnt notice because seems very busy with his work. I started to think to break up and talk bout it to him,but i couldn't do so.Because I know I love him so much more than him.. Im not calling him anymore but he still call and update what his doing there..He is a good man and I trust him..
But I dont feel the specialness or sparkling anymore..its seems so boring and he is not doing anything new activities or i would say there is nothing much to talk about us..I cant see 'us'..
We always talk if anny issue occur but things seems change..If i say anything..its a complain. So since then I stop talking about it..Coz i dont want him to do it because i say so..because there is only responbility..no more love...
What most hurt is I feel he took me for granted.. ;(
I dont know what should I do..
My boyfriend and I have been together for more than 3 years and we have lived together for the majority of it, including my senior year (that was the first year we lived together)...
Lately he comes up with all kinds of reasons to bitch about how I'm not doing things good enough. I quit doing one thing that he said he would break up with me for (with an ultimatum) and now he has an ultimatum that if I don't clean up more things each day he's going to leave by the end of the month. He recently got a car and now that he has one, all of a sudden he wants me to ask my mom for a car. I ride the bus and have for the last few years before he ever had a car and he knows that I have a fear of driving (it runs in my family) and now he's demanding I overcome that, which I admit I need to but I think he's just going to make ridiculous ultimatum after ultimatum until I can't fucking stand it anymore.
His bitching and criticism is incessant. He even told me that I had gained weight! I have been skinny this whole relationship and my measurements are 34C-25.5-39 and he wants to tell me I'm getting bigger while he weighs more than 200 pounds?! Unbelievable! Plus the day he said that I was really bloated the day he said it because we were running out of money and had to eat a lot of bean burritos. Not only does he just bitch at me and criticize me more, he also talks shit about everything around him and thinks he is better than everything else. Anyways...
He is also spending less time with me. He already has 2 jobs which is fine and I understand why, but now in the very little time I already get to see him besides when going to sleep when he gets home around 11 pm, he has just announced that he is going to be spending extra time working on his "masonic brotherhood". On top of that, he wants to tell me that I don't spend enough time with him! God forbid I want to use the computer when he gets home instead of accompanying his ass, most the time I just want to avoid him because I know when he walks in the door, chances are I'll be bitched at.
We don't really call each other just to talk since we live with one another but we usually do call to plan things or check up on one another. I noticed that when his bitching started he stopped saying I love you and that I was always the one who had to initiate. Just to test it I stopped saying it, and of course, it never gets said at all. Eventually I pointed it out to him and he tries to say it now but I can tell he almost forgets towards the end.
He keeps talking about his ultimatum and says he will start making plans to move out. He has already told me his plans for splitting up our stuff if he does move out. I guess he is kind of nice for letting me have his dad's old computer still (he got a new one) and the old flat screen (he also got a new one of those) and the bottom mattress... but it still isn't that nice to have to hear him talk about it before the time comes, if it does.
His family that is still alive is encouraging him to try to work it out with me and maybe take some relationship therapy courses for free at the community college. He claims that he does want to work it out with me but his actions prove different. Even after he said he really wants to stay together he still is looking up new apartments online.
This guide is pretty spot on, except the "talking less about feelings" part as he often likes to do that excessively, usually very loudly sometimes critically and usually domineering the whole conversation.
Who knows what'll happen. I've been cleaning up shit more but I have no idea whats "good enough" for him anymore. It seems like he has become such a status seeker since his parents died, he thinks it makes them proud of him. In reality he is becoming a bitter square who thinks success is measured by wallet size and how nice your house looks.
All I know is this, it always seems to be the case with me that I don't know what I have got until it's gone. Every tine I have been hurting over breaking up with a guy another one has cone along and I have been complacent about them. It's because I'm still always getting over my past relationship. What has happenend recently is that the man that constantly showed me that attention split up with me
and all of a sudden I realised that he actually meant more to me
than the ones before. Because he was too damn nice I didn't feel instantly attracted to him as I was morning the break up with a bad guy but now that he is out of my life I realise he meant more to me than anyone has before. This may or may not make sense to you but the moral of it is basically it is true what they say 'you don't know what you have got till it's gone' and the relationship break down that hurts the mist is the one where u realise too late that you didn't make the most of what u had. I'm not asking for advice coz I know that I have messed up what I had and there is no way that I can get it back but let this be a warning to all of u that spend too long mourning the break up of a loser and don't see when someone better has landed at your feet!
I have a problem..
Me and my girlfriend of three years (well i like to say three years we have split up god knows how many time in that space of time)have been arguing a lot again recently, and the thing is, its always her who wants to split up every time we do, the thing is, wen we get along we get along so great like a house on fire, its really really good, but with her thats quickly forgotten she gets in moods very quickly about silly things, which then leads to arguments, and she can sum times say a lot of hurtful things, like the way she speaks to me can be really rude and vulgar. I mean wen we first started goin out it was so good, so romantic, so passionate and so special, i was only 17 at the time and she was 16, and we were both a lot more mature for our age, her mum and dad both liked me and everything was okay, and then around 4 months into our relationship i started to see a new side of her, she was very very hard to deal with, she would say things like go find sum1 else and i dont care wat u do, and i dont want to be with u anymore every single time we had an argument, and it finally pushed me to kiss sum1 else, but wen i did that we had already split up, anyway i confessed to her that i had kissed sum wen we split up and she didnt take it well even though she had done the dumping and said to me she didnt want anything to do with me again, so i was really confused and upset as well, it took time to get over that, but a couple of months later the same thing happened again, we argued and she said the same things again and again, how she didnt love me or want to be with me anymore and how its over for good,so we split up and i was left alone and single again, and it wasn't long out of spite and anger that i slept with sum1 else but this was over a week after we split up. Anyway my ex found out about this suddenly wanted to get back with me only after she had dealt with the other woman, i did regret sleeping with this other woman, but at the time i was hurting like anything and i was alone and hadent heard from my ex, but like always we got back 2gether again. A few months later we went on holiday and wen we got back i lost my job, it wasn't long until we had split up again (her decision ) this time just after Christmas i found out she had split up with me for another bloke she had just met, so i didnt get involved i let her get on with it and just carried on with my life, about 2 months later wen i had just finally almost begin to b happy again, she got back in contact with me again, and i found out she had split up with this bloke to get back with me, but i found out later on he had proposed to her and she was scared off seeing as he was about 5 years older then her as well, so we got back 2gether and she was lovely, just like how we were wen we first got 2gether, kind loving, she appreciated me and what i did for her, but it didnt take long for her to turn into her usual greedy, selfish, stubborn self, completely disregarding my feelings and my views on things. So anyway we split up again, this was around 3 months ago now, and that split up was really the worst for me, coz i have always loved her so much and i had done so much to get her back so so much to convince her i love her with all my heart and soul and it really really hurt me a lot to see her so willingly throw everything away for her own well being, because she wasent happy anymore because, she wanted to go out and get drunk more and stupid reasons like this, im not gunna lie a cryed a lot over that for a few days, but what was really hard was that since i had been with her i had lost most of my mates and a few of my very best friends, so i was basically completely alone, so it was very hard, but after time things got easier, i met a new girl who i tryed to convince myself that i really liked and that i maybe had a future with but every day i spent with her just made me think of my ex and how she was nothing like her or didnt do the things my ex did that made me fall so deeply in love with her, so a week later we had split up and i was in contact with my ex again.
Now we are at the current day today as i post this it has been almost 2 months since our last break up, but i can feel it is close again, I feel like i am the only one who makes any effort at all in our relationship, She dosent drive so the only way we can see each other is wen i go pick her up, after work or at the weekends, no i work 13 hours a day at a hospital, so im not always about to see her, and she works in london at harvey knickles as a hairdresser, but here is wat the problem is, she never rings me or texs me its always me who has to make the first move, she lies a lot about little things, but that just makes me wonder wat else shes lied about, she does things behind my back, changed plans to see other people even though we had made plans, she dosent want to pay for anything e.g meals out or cinema or anything like that, its normally me who pays for it, she dosent want to speak to me for any longer than 5 mins on the fone, coz shes trying to do other things or shes busy or im annoying her, she dosent tell me she loves me no where near as she used to, and heres probably what hurts me the most, her dad dosent like me any more because she always used to slag me off to him when we split every time, now apparently he had told her she dosent want her to see me, but i have said to her that she is almost 19 years old now its not up to her dad and that if she really loved me and wanted to b with me she would tell him that were together, but she refuses to tell him and she came out only the other day that she is embarrassed to be with me thats why she wont tell him, this hurt me a lot and she said afterwards that she didnt mean it and she only says things like that coz shes in a mood or im annoying her, now i always do everything for i and as far as im concerned, she dosent deserve me and a lot of my mates have said the same thing, but the problem is no matter how many times we split up, i always long for her and miss her so much and just wanna be with her no matter what, but i dont no at all what she wants, the way i see it is that, she wants me when either things arnt goin right for her anymore after we split up or wen she sees iv found sum1 else or look like iv moved on, ill always love her no matter what iv spent my whole teenage life with her, and we used to have sumthing special.
But now i dont no wat to do, basically i need to no if i should split with her because are relationship has set sailed or wat?? im so confused and upset and dont no wat to do, my mates say i dont deserve to be treated the way i do by her but i ignore them because i dont wanna hear it, but i no that there right and i shouldnt have to put up with her bullshit. Maybe im too weak to put an end to it, but i no she loves me thats the problem, i no she loves me but i dont no if she actually wants to be with me or anything, wen i talk about the future, marriage, getting a flat 2gether so on so on, she dosent wanna no about it, i mean its been 3 years and i feel like we havent progressed at all in our relationship. Im not stupid i no wat she gets up to at home and she does thigns behind my back, silly stupid things like talking to people who i dont want her to talk to coz of different reasons, but she still does it out of sheer disrespect, this is what gets to me she has no respect for me, and she has told me various times she dosent have any respect for me.. :( im goin on holiday soon with my best mate for a weeks chill out in spain, were im hoping to do some soul searching, and get my head straight and then hopfully come back to a happier relationship, but i no i will come back to false accusations and an arguments, i dont no what to do, please if any1 has a problem like this please reply.
Thank u all.
i have a big problem...
Me and my girlfriend had been in a relationship for 2 months.We both used to really like each other before we decided to fall into a relationship.It took me convince 9 months to convince her that i m serious abt her,until she realised how true my feelins were.The only problem was
i was not sure abt the future about our relationship since we both were from different castes.But still she was convinced to fall into a rel wid me hoping that i wud convince my family for our future.
She was fine wid the fact that we sre not sure abt the future n was havin quality tym wid me,but after 2 months she suddenly decide to brk up wid me givin the reason of no future which i felt was very genuine.
its been two months after the brk up and i still hav got feelins for her. i have tried convincing her n gave her the assurance abt our future but she says she is completely out of the feelins n no longer wants to be in a rel wid me.
i hav tried convining her thrice but of no use.
i ahv said atleast be frnds wid me n she no longer talks to me.she completely avoids me as if i dont exist.we both work at the same place n i have to face her everyday.She wa in contact wid me after the brk up but recently she has completely stooped talkin to me n no longer cares abt me.It really hurts me to see her changed so much.
she was really concerned abt me bfore the brk up but now doesnt care abt me.Please help.
My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years. We are living together. Things have been going really well over those 2 years. We are both in our mid-twenties and really want to go back to college to get our degrees. But suddenly he is mentioning words like, "move out" "break up" "never going to be home" "want to experience full college life". I do not want to ignore these signs. I did that with my past relationship and was really heart broken when he walked out on me. I do not nag or ask for anything really. I am more than happy to give him all the space he needs. I have my own stuff going on and I do not need to be with him all of the time. I pay for everything 50/50 including when we eat out at restaurants. The last thing I want to do is pressure him in any way. That would not be fair. So I wonder, what should I do? He mentions how much he wants the full college experience. I told him that I definitely do not want that, but if that is what he wants then he should for sure do that. He says I have nothing to worry about, as I tried talking to him about what he wants. But he is not very reassuring or convincing. I am beginning to notice how emotionally unavailable he is. I was really hoping this was the relationship I would be in for the rest of my life. Am I in trouble of losing this relationship? He suddenly wants all of these changes. I feel like I am not as important as I once was to him. He also says things like, "You should focus on you and I should focus on me. What if we break up in the future? We don't know what can happen." Now, correct me if I'm wrong, but when a boyfriend mentions the words "break up" to his girlfriend, she has reason to worry. The one thing I have taken from all of this is that I need to worry about my own future and take the right steps to make myself happy and not depend on there being a future with him. .... So sad. :( So if anyone can answer my question... What should I say to him and what should I do?
how to deal with a break up after it happens? can anyone suggest me?.....
I saw 5 of the signs in him. We r 2gether for 11months 14days. Last week i met his parents. It seemed they didnt like me(i m quite sure for that). Since then, he has become busy, doesnt call me but he never misbehaved. Does he want 2 break up? I asked him several times but he denied! What should i do?
Excellent Hub!
It's not necessary to go through all of the phases before realizing the relationship is coming to an end.
"If you see a train coming, get off the tracks!"
is it selfish to tell my boyfriend to get a tatto of my name on his body? Well he just say, sure if you want me to i will.
Fds tell me that don't because after break up blah blah.
But i am being selfish? I mean i actually havent think about breaking up with him, but if that happends, i don't care about the tatto on his body, i must say i want him to have my name even if we break up ... am i selfish?? am i??
actually what concerns me is that, after my bf gets the tatto people will look at him in other way, u know like a bad person with a tatto stuffs like that. i'm afraid his reputation get affected by a "tatto". guest i ain't that selfish xD am i? HELPPPPPPPPPPPP
True :(
my boyfriend never talks to me.
never sees me.
flirts with other girls.
ignores my calls.
cheated on me.
& much much more.
for some reason, i'm still here.
i cant find a way to tell him it neeeds to be over,
can you guys help me out?
I've been with this guy since july he's really great but I hardly see him or get to talk to him last month he met my whole family I met only his dad as the rest of his family lives in another province his dad really likes me and my daughter he takes pics and videos of her to send back to his wife but this past month my bf has been acting very distant his aunt died then two weeks later his grandma died he just got back from the funeral he was gone thursday till tuesday and texted to say he got there and then that he's on his way back its a day later and we haven't really talked he had to work the dame day he got back but I texted him and he never replied I don't know if he is ignoring me or if he just forgot his phone at work as he sometimes does or passed out he likes my duaghter he wants kids and everything he sometimes ints at the idea of us living together he buys games for my daughter for when we are at his house but he's just been very hot and cold pretty much our whole relationship but with all the mixed signs I'm so confused and I don't want to come off as needy or having no confidence but I want and need to know where I stand my daughter loves him she even told him in front of his dad that we should get married right out of the blue I love him but I need to spend more time with him I see him once or twice a week and I told him that I'm going to miss him when he's gone back home for the funeral and he said I should get a hobbie its like we hardly see eachother and he's going to be gone when we normally would and that's what he says but then he is under a lot of stress and he told me he doesn't like to show emotions but he does have them and when we do see eachother he gives me little flirty looks and last week before he left he looked thru my daughters homeowrk book she's in kindergarten and no one asked him to he did it on his own I don't know if I'm over reacting or if I should brace myself oh and my family really likes him to and his parents said they feel like grandparents know and couldn't be happier as they really want grandkids and have none yet
I was looking for an advice about breaking up with my boyfriend
I've read your Hub and it has some very good points. I'd like to add however that in a long term relationship, these elements can be gone through, and successfully come out of too. They don't automatically mean a relationship is doomed to expire when one or evan all of these things occur; they can be worked out, other things may be happening to cause these effects that are outside of control of either of you!
So, she's distant, she's grumpy, doesn't talk, comes home from work and just goes to sleep on the couch, hardly wants to do anything together, suddenly has great interest in her friends lives or work colleagues lives breaks off arrangements we have, and doesn't show any affection anymore.
We've been together 7 years, we're engaged, have a house together, and this crumbling that i'm witnessing is starting to feel a bit scary and sureal!
I've asked her about the individual parts time and time again and it always turns into an argument or tears with me being the bad guy for having brought it up.
I recently suggested that maybe she wasn't happy (i was trying to give her a free ticket to finally spit it out) and that the way she's going at things is pushing me further and further away, and that it might be a case of us splitting up would make each of us happier...i got nothing, not a sound not a single word.
This frustrated the life out of me as i so badly wanted her to at least try and fight for what we have/had, but she didn't, so i asked whether the prospect bothered her at all...she cried and said that it did scare her.
My problem is that i really can't bring myself round to believing her, i think that she simply doesn't care anymore and that she doesn't know how to say it.
I'd love to have a crystal ball right now, the last thing i want is for us to break up, i love this girl with all my heart, mind, body and soul and to lose her would devastate me beyond repair!
In need of advice here; I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and 4 months and for the past month or so we have been arguing a lot. He's going through a lot of stress right now from working a lot of hours and having to watch his grandmother waste away from cancer, and we always fight about little things. Today he told me he was tired of arguing with me and that he felt like he couldn't ever make me happy, and that he couldn't take it anymore and that he wasn't sure if we should still be dating.
Later on in the day he told me that there was a very good chance that he would end up breaking up with me and as of right now, I am waiting for a text or a phone call from him.
I feel like I can't function without him and I have literally no friends, which is why I'm posting on here... How in the world can I make him decide to give me a chance to change, and be less argumentative with him? The last thing in the world that I want is to lose him.
Summarize: my boyfriend and I argue all the time and he wants to break up. How do I fix this?
Thanks in advance...
i don't think that these are sure signs of a breakup. My girlfriend and I have been dating for nearly nine months. We started dating at the end of last semester, and throughout the summer things were awesome! However, she is a senior, and I am a junior... so this semester got extremely busy for us.
We fought like mad at the beginning of the semester due to the stresses of our classloads.
Then, we are fighting like mad right now, as I type this, probably as a result of stress caused by finals last week. I truly am afraid that we aren't going to last much longer, but I am willing to work through it, and I trust that she is too.
Sarah, the best thing to do is just to keep your mouth shut. It will end the cycle of negativity. I know it's hard, because I can't even follow that advice... but lose your pride! a breakup isn't worth defending your choice of words or your actions.
@Sarah,
If your boyfriend is saying things like he doesn't "think he can make you happy" and "there was a very good chance that he would end up breaking up with you" then its clear that even though he may have made up his mind, he doesn't really want to do it. Or he is just as scared as you are to end a 2 year relationship.
He is willing to keep on fighting and arguing BUT with all that he's going through now, he's looking for support and assurance and not another argument.
Everyone disagrees about things now and then so don't feel too bad. You need to look at what your boyfriend is going through and let him know that you're there for him. Telling him that you'll change won't work. He needs to know see it for himself.
The next time you feel like arguing no matter if it's his fault or yours, give your boyfriend a hug and let him know you care. Then if you still disagree about something you can always discuss it in a non confrontational or judgmental manner.
@ Kelly,
thanks so much for replying so promptly. I really appreciate your advice and will definitely be there for him and let him know that.
We talked a lot the night I posted my initial response and decided we would try to work it out and since then haven't got to see each other due to me being out of town, but I can feel the difference in our relationship- more loving, affectionate, forgiving, etc. Hopefully with your advice and our will to stay together, we will be able to repair our relationship and be happy together again.
i hav been in a relationship with brittany brock 4 5/6 months but she doesnt talk 2 me at all she doesnt spend time with me she always avoids me and shes constantly buisy no one can be buisy tht much wht should i do.
I have been in a relationship with my bf for 2 yrs. Now and I am positive that I'm falling out of love with him. It used to be great at the beginning we will do everything together he was what I had been looking for, he was my bestfriend before we started dating and still was even though we was dating we used to tell each other everything but lately he haven't been acting right its been going on for about 6 months or a year. He does want me to party or go to the club but he still does it after I tell him not too. He goes to school and he work. But we still spend sometimes together but I am currently unemployed wish I had a job cause I am always home bored. So lately everytime he come around he makes an excuse to leave 5 minutes later after being at my house I live with my parents he live on his own I'm 20 he is 23 but he act like a child anyways he only has 2 days off from work but he rather hang out with his friends even when he get off work he usually come over and chill until it gets late he goes home but be doesn't do that anymore everytime we are together he makes an excuse to leave so he can go to his boys house play dominos which is Saturday night don't get me wrong I don't mind him hanging with his boys but he think ha smart he does that every Saturdays night so when he done he can go to a party or club as if I don't know. We been through a lot but everytimes he want sex he comes around which makes me hate him even more so I don't sleep with him he gets mad and sometimes leave like I care I am not stupid giving out sex when he wants it anyway I tried to leave him take a break but he won't let me he say he love me but does show it most of the time. we spend a lot of time fighting over dumb shit any little thing turn into an argument and I hate that, I told him I am no longer in love with him he says nothing but I know its hurting him on the inside we even told each other we are not happy together its like how long can we drag this relationship, I just wish we could get better cause if we don't I will have to leave him and this time for good I rather be alone then unhappy.
me and my boyfriend have been together for four months now, and we both are in love. my parents hate him! but im in LOVE with him, he makes me soooo happy. but here latley we have had to secretly be together, and my parents do not know. he has something on his mind even though he tells me everything is okay and that he loves me. we can never spend time together he feels like he has ruined my senior year...but he hasn't! we dont fight i just try to get him to open up. he wont:( what do do??? is he gonna break up with me?? im soooo scared, i feel liek when we are together everything is perfect. and when we are not together the other half of me is missing.. HELP ME PLEASE!!!
I am also going through some of these situations and can't understand for the life of me, why he keeps telling me he loves me.... and wants to be with me forever.. excuse me, let me tell you about the situation. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 6 years , but its kinda like I stole him in the first place , well kinda , see when I met him he told me he was single and wanted to get to me.. I obliged and about 2 months of constantly trying to pursue me , I slept with him. After our experience he than told me he didn't want a relationship.. should have listened, I know. but i didn't .. telling him there was no way he was just gonna sleep with me than try that !!!! So he eventually agreed, and maybe 6 months down the line his childs mother , a girl he's been with for 11 years shows up to my house while we were having a cook out!!! What does he do?? Runs away , literally a hill not to be heard from again until the next day.. When he says to me " she was trying to make trouble for him " , so again.. I believe him...To make a long story short he cheated on me again shortly after with one of his exes best friends.... since than I havent really " caught him cheating at on me as that was 5 years ago. but I have caught him in alot of situations lying to me about just weird stuff!! But he swears up and down that he loves me!!!! Theres just so much more to say but would really appreciate any feed back .. thank you
Wow.all them signs are in my relationship.
Hi, my boyfriend and i had been dating for nearly a year now. It's a long distance relationship, he's in Europe and I'm in asia. But even with the time difference we were able to make it work. We talk everyday and he always would say he loves me and it never changes. If i ask him if he has loved me lesser now, he'd say it hasnt changed and if it did, he loved me more and i'm still worth it. But lately i noticed that I seemed to become a lesser priority, he is less talkative and we spend lesser time together. I thought it might be because we were always together so I said id give him space for a few days. And when I returned after a couple of days, he seemed not too glad about it. He didnt seem to have missed me at all. I pointed this out to him and thats when he told me that it might be him that needs more time to be alone now. So we agreed not to be together for a few days. Although he assured me that we're not breaking up because he still loves me so much, I'm scared that in the end he'd realize he didnt wanna be with me. Please help me, should I expect a break up soon?
i needed this
i don't see him anymore My ex because she over game my personel !
Well, the situation between my boyfriend is that I was really paranoid at the start of the relationship, always thinking he's flirting with another girl, he actually was and I found it on his phone. I'm trying to find how to trust my boyfriend again since he's lied about so many things, seeing his ex behind my back, staying up late talking to her etc. I got to the point where I just told him that I wanted to change, I've been fine the past few days, no arguing, no getting suspicious. He told me that he wants to have 'time alone' although he says he doesn't want to break up with me I feel that he wants a week on his own so he can lose ALL of his feelings for me, he said that he got the impression that I rely on him too much, always focusing on him etc.. THAT'S WHAT YOU DO WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEONE ISN'T IT? he says that he wants to miss me, we're in a long distanced relationship, I don't ask him to text me or talk to me on facebook, he just does it genuinely, so why can't I make myself happy by ringing him once a day?! he basically wants no communication for a week because he wants to miss me and stop taking me for granted so he can realise how much I mean to him. Is this what his thoughts are right now? or is he going to break up with me when I stay over his house 10 days from now? =[ (we're starting our break on Monday by the way)
Jesus, I hope this isn't happening to us. The signs are here, but I hope he's not giving up on me like this. Not like this :(.
i guess i should have found this earlier. people saw it coming and told me but i guess i was too much in love to see it. now it has happened and iam so much down cos i gave my all to make this work but did not sleep with him of which i am glad. i am currently going through a lot and he comes out to tell me this? you can imagine how i feel right now. he says he has lost the connection and doesnt want me to suffer but i think there is another reason of which he is refusing to tell me. i just dont know but i need help seriously cos am breaking down and i feel so sad and anything you can thing of.
I've been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for about 4 months now, at the start he was so sweet and we talked all the time, we still talk each day but not much. since about a week ago i got back from Bali in which we didn't talk much for about 10 days, he's become distant and I don't feel that he still cares, I talk to him about it and he said he's just stressed, but he won't open up to me like he did he won't tell me what's going on, I feel that he doesn't want to be in this relationship anymore, but I love him and want to stay with him, what should I do?
am sooo unhappy, i have alittle 8yr old and so does my bf who are equally hard work when together and i feel its coming between us, also he always loses his temper easy with my little girl, maybe because she wounds him up, example she wiped dirt on his top, bear in mind shes deaf, and she likes fun, and he sometimes takes it too far with her, been together nearly a year and also expecting our first child together am soooo confused and hes als on antidespresants if i spelt that rite, he has alot of issues not sure what to do.
I was divorced after 25yrs. 1yr later I met the most wonderful man. We were together 4yrs. The last 4 months, he started taking vacations with the guys and not me anymore. His older drug addict sons moved in with him. He told me now he only has a limited amount of time and if I didnt like it I should move on. This is heartless. Do you think he is seeing someone else?
My bf and I got engaged one year ago.Things were ok for a while until he just stopped calling like he used to. He says he still loves me but he doen't want to rush into anything. Ecently, he suggested that we postpone the wedding which should have been this December. I'm going nuts and all he wants to do is spend time with buddies. Please help me!
we were together when we started the relationship and spent two years in the same job, we were not living-in though.Due to parental pressure I had to take a transfer from that place to my home town.Two years have passed since then.Nowadays he doesnot seem to care so much about my feelings.One day he told me 'hopeless' , I objected and he straightly said he did not mean it.But he took no serious attempt to convince me when I disconnected the phone he just didnot bother to call me back.
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Me and my girlfriend are fighting at the moment and we are both doing these signs. she says she can't do it anymore and I always say I'm busy
Well im 17 nd my fionce is 19 we hav a beutifil baby girl, im scared of wat might happen to her of this does happen. I hav been giving him some space but that didn't seem to help so i tryed bein around more nd thats working abit ;) I hope we will get through it
Love stinks! I don't wanna be in another relationship. I'm always getting my heart broken. I've had enough!!!!!!
MY GF AND I are in a long distance relationship right nw..and i hav seen several indications that she has lost her interest in me..whenever i ask her directly she thinks i am paranoid and says she loves me a lot...but again after sometym the same things happn....i love her but now i am am not sure what to do nw
Well, my boyfriend and I have been together for about two years now. I'm 18, he's 20. Before reading this article I thought we just hit a rough patch, but now I'm concerned that he may not want to be with me. I love him, and of course I want to fix things. We're young, but it's like I turned into that old woman and he's just waiting for his Jess to come back. Is there a subtle yet quick way I can fix this %1000.
that was such an advice...tnks!!!!
my boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months now and we were friends for 1,5 years before that. everything seemed to be going perfectly, we talked about moving in together and having babies. he would call me or text me few times every day and he would say 'love you' at the end of every phone call. he met my mum and they totally hit it off. we've gone on day trips together and weekend trips together. everything was great.
but the last couple of weeks have been different. i can't even remember last time he said he loved me. he doesn't call or text me much and sometimes when he calls it lasts 2 minutes because we don't have anything to talk about. he still buys me presents and our sex life is really good but emotionally i feel he's detached and i don't feel loved and wanted any more. he also critised me for putting on weight recently and last time he said he can see me getting old (i'm only 25 for heaven's sake) and that girls generally age quicker than men...
any advice??
@sausage roll..
I'm having the same situation with my gf. I dont know what to do. I hate the idea of splitting but maybe I'd be saving myself hurt in the long run. I'd be interested to hear how you got on since your last post.
My bf and I have been together for 4 years. I haven't seen him for more than 2 weeks. At first it was university work he was busy with. We planned to meet then he changed it for a night out with mates. He never calls, and when I do phone he says he doesn't like phone calls. He texts, but it's just general conversation, nothing about us personally. I just feel disconnected from him, like we are strangers. Weekends are now for him working and he hasn't made any plans with me for christmas, obviously his family come first, but I'd like a bit of thought put into our relationship, for such an organized guy he doesn't demonstrate it with me. I feel like I am doing all of the running around and it's not right. What's up? (We are both 18 and studying).
lately my bf has been acting wierd and my friend tyler said that two weeks ago he seemed depressed and now he barely even looks or talks to me,so one day i did something stupid but i wanted to see if he was ok. i was walking with a friend and he was walking in front of me talking to his friend and i suddenly grabbed his shoulder lightly,he looked back and smiled as i quickly pulled my hand back and blurted sorry..he said it was ok and was about to turn around when i suddenly hugged him.he hugged me and patted my back and when i looked up he was smiling so i said hey is there anything wrong he said no but i said are you sure and he was still smiling and said i'll talk to you after school and then left. I dont know if thats a good thig or bad but i dont know,part of me feels like its a bad thing and the other part of me tells me not to worry.i tell myself if he breaks up with me then i wont cry because he's just a guy but i would still like him i dont know if i should worry,wait,or just prepare myself. i really like him
@roberto:
i hope you and your girlfriend can work it out, honestly. if you love each other it's worth a try but if it doesn't work out don't beat yourself up because you know you did everything you could.
we worked it out at the end. in one heated argument i lost all the inhibitions and told him exactly what i wrote in my post. that i felt he's withdrawn and that it hurt me and that if he feels his feelings changed i'm more than happy for him to go and do his own thing, no hard feelings. we talked and we both made conscious effort to work on making things better. of course we have slip ups sometimes: i can act childish and spoiled and he can be really selfish (he left me sitting alone at home on new years eve to go out to the pub with his brother and friends. however he called the next day to say that only during the night he realised that he didn't really enjoy it that much and it was shit because he should have been with me). we all make mistakes and things are shit sometimes but as long as both of you make an effort to keep the relationship going and learn about each other and compromise i believe it will be ok. but you must both really believe it's worth it.
Thank you so much for pointing out all the signs really and eye opener everyone of them applied to my relationship.
My bf is also acting werid we always talked and made jokes and laugh togethet. But he just writes me notes and when i come near him he always goes with his friends and pretends im not there. It makes me feel dumb or something cause he really liked ( or still likes idk) me!!!! :(
I have three signs, he can't make me happy and we argue over everything!! I'm relentless because I don't feel special. Our anniversary is coming up. I don't like his drinking; he's in denial... I was going to give up but thanks for ur response to Sarah above!! We will now try once more.
im in a relation of 7years i got a son,he 2yrs now his father is neglecting us fanancially what must i do he gave me 300 a monthly for the baby for me im not sure he gives me money for transport let me say it close to 200 monthtly his basis salary is 6000 after deduction do u think i must be patient with him he will come around or i must just move on,the baby is our first born on both side i try 2 talk 2 him but his telling me 'i will give u what is enough for my son'i can even do a thing with this money i think of ending the relationship but my mom loves him she dont wanna take the side of my story my boyfriend is using me,for past year his doing this,i thought thing will get better but no they getting worse i can even stand him now he make me sick,i my wish was 2 see my growng with his parent in a warmthy of love but my wish seem 2 fall apart i dnt know what to do can u pls give me advise
I find myself getting more and more annoyed with things my wife does is this a warning sign or not?
She feels it is, and constantly asks me why am I with her if so much of what she does annoys me. I love her greatly and my annoyance is generally brief. She's emotional and hangs on to things for days making me even more annoyed.
I ask am I wrong for showing my annoyance or in a marriage some times it's normal to feel that way.
Kelly, i havent seen my boyfriend in 5 days or so because his friend came down from denver so i let him his "guy time" yesterday i txted him 'goodnight' and he didnt text back then around one in the afternoon he tells me he's working on something cant talk and he'll pass by at 7 to talk.. Im afraid i dont know what i did wrong? Or why we need to have the 'talk' we've been together for 2 1/2
i met this guy in 1998 just as a sex thing and i told him the way it wa going to be. He went along with it for the whole time we were together and he started getting feelings for me. I started to like him but wasnt getting as strong as his were. This lasted 6 years. I started getting deeper feelings for him but it needed to either go forward or we had to stop seeeign each other. We couldnt stay away from each other. My father died and i didnt want to deal with anyone or be around anyone and he tried but knew i was distraught and he left me alone. Then, his son got killed and i talked to him and we kind of lost touch. Now it has been 13 years and he got in touch with me and said he loved me the whole time we were together. He has pursuing me & we finally got together then we fight & then talk again trying to figure this out. We still cant stay away from each other and he told me he loves me and when he thinks of me he just sees my beautiful face and and my eyes that melt him. He said he cant be friends with me because he loves me too much and he cant lose me. But i kind of stopped taking his call and avoiding him because he can be very possessive and moody & i sometimes think he is playing mind games but i love him. What advice can you give me because i am having a really hard time
sg_jerome 3 years ago
Great advise, I should have found your hubs much early
Thanks